Sunday, October 9, 2016

THE GREAT RUIN OF HAPPINESS


Proverbs 28:14 (KJV)
Happy is the man that feareth alway: but he that hardeneth his heart shall fall into mischief.

I can’t imagine there is anyone alive who prefers not to be happy.

·   It doesn’t mean we all want to be lazy
·   It doesn’t mean none of us want to sacrifice
·   It doesn’t mean we don’t want to accomplish something worthwhile in life

It just means that, as we do all of this, we’d like to be happy too.

I believe it is possible to live a full and significant life, to make sacrifices and pay a high price to do something great with your life and STILL be happy.

I’ve tried all year long to bring messages on the Biblical principles of happiness.

I want to turn things around just a little bit this morning and point out a very clear roadblock to happiness.

This one thing will ruin a person’s pursuit of happiness, no matter what else they do.

Notice with me first,
I. A WARNING
Proverbs 28:14 (KJV)
Happy is the man that feareth alway: but he that hardeneth his heart shall fall into mischief.

And then, to support this passage I want to also give you,
Proverbs 29:1 (KJV)
He, that being often reproved hardeneth his neck, shall suddenly be destroyed, and that without remedy.

Let me just tell you that I am not going to make a great deal of distinction between:
·   Hardening the heart and
·   Hardening the neck
today.

The difference is a simple one;
·   Hardening the heart is what a person does,
·   Hardening the neck is what it looks like when a person does it

Hardening the heart is a matter of the affections.
It’s an internal rebellion against something, usually a teaching from God.

Hardening the neck is the physical result of the hardening of the heart.
It is stiffening the muscles and bowing the neck and resisting the instructions of the Lord.

Notice then what the Bible says about the one who hardens his heart:
·   shall fall into mischief.
·   shall suddenly be destroyed, and that without remedy.

There are two words associated with the verses that I am using:
·   Fear and
·   Reprove

I am afraid we could go away with the idea that hardening the heart is always a reaction to some sort of discipline.

We blame rules for people’s rebellion;
If a child rebels, it’s because the parents made them do something.

That is often the case but not always the case:
A. People often harden their hearts to preaching
I have no idea why this came to mind when I was preparing for the message but I am reminded of an episode[2] of Walton’s Mountain when an evangelist came through.

Everyone of the Walton Family attended the services and the whole town seemingly was stirred up by the preaching.

Not Daddy Walton.
Played by Ralph Waite, in this episode, everyone got concerned for his soul.

The opening narrative went like this:
Narrator: [narration as John 'John Boy' Walton, Jr. reading from his journal] We were a religious people on Waltons Mountain. The church was the center of our social, as well as our spiritual lives. Each year there would come a great religious revival when each of us would be called upon to examine our conscience and to receive salvation. It was a time of joyous reunion, of intense religious fervor, and it was looked forward to with great anticipation by everyone except my father.[3]

There are people who can hear the most:
·   positive
·   upbeat
·   feel good
messages and still be hardened against them just because it’s preaching.

B. People frequently harden their hearts to exhortation
Hebrews 13:22 (KJV)
And I beseech you, brethren, suffer the word of exhortation: for I have written a letter unto you in few words.

An exhortation is a kind of urging.
It is an appeal toward something.

It’s not mean spirited or critical; its goal is to lead a person toward something
·   good and
·   wholesome and
·   upright

C. People sometimes even harden their hearts to encouragement
Here and there it will happen that a young person, usually eleven years old or younger, will come dressed in a suit and tie for the first time.

·   They don’t like it
·   They let everyone know it
So I will come up to them and say, “Wow! You look really great!”

He’ll cross his arms, pooch out his lips and walk away indignant.

I’ve seen some men who don’t act much better.
“Hey, you’re wearing a suit. That looks great!
Don’t get used to it. My wife made me wear it.”

I feel like saying,
“Yeah, you’re a blessing to me too.”

God says a person who hardens his heart will fall into mischief and be destroyed without remedy.

Let me show you now
II. AN ILLUSTRATION
Jeremiah 17:20-23 (KJV)
And say unto them, Hear ye the word of the LORD, ye kings of Judah, and all Judah, and all the inhabitants of Jerusalem, that enter in by these gates:
Thus saith the LORD; Take heed to yourselves, and bear no burden on the sabbath day, nor bring it in by the gates of Jerusalem;
Neither carry forth a burden out of your houses on the sabbath day, neither do ye any work, but hallow ye the sabbath day, as I commanded your fathers.
But they obeyed not, neither inclined their ear, but made their neck stiff, that they might not hear, nor receive instruction.

Please understand that God loves Israel.

He has set them as the apple of His eye. He cherishes them and does so unequivocally.

But the history of Israel is that of a people who have hardened their hearts against the Lord and His Word again and again.

A. They hardened their hearts and Kadesh Barnea
God had led them to the very border of the land He had promised to Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.

It was their promised possession and it was their at that moment, if they would accept it.

They did not.
They sent in twelve men to spy out the land.
·   Two of those men returned to say it's a good land, and we can take it.
·   Ten of them agreed it is a good land, but told the people they could never beat the inhabitants there.
the multitude heeded the voice of the majority rather than the voice of God.

The result was that they spent the next 40 years wandering around in the wilderness until that whole generation had died away.

B. The book of Judges is one account after the other of Israel’s hardened hearts
Just about every time something good started to happen in Israel, the people would forget about God.

Their wickedness would eventually lead to an enemy attacking and oppressing them until

Finally they would cry out to God and He would give them a deliverer.

But as soon as things got turned around, they would turn against God and the whole cycle would start all over again.

Eventually they ended up with a king after their own hearts and not God’s, who brought terrible oppression upon his own country.

C. Speaking of the Promised Land
Israel had been commanded by God to give the land a year of rest from planting crops every seven years.

490 Israel lived in the Promised Land, neglecting 70 times to give the land its rest.

When Babylon conquered them and took them into captivity God said they would remain in that captivity seventy years – until the Promised Land had gotten its rest.

D. To this day there is no land in the world more hotly contested than that of Israel
And to this day, Israel lives in a state of hardened hearts against God.

God said,
Proverbs 28:14 (KJV)
Happy is the man that feareth alway: but he that hardeneth his heart shall fall into mischief.


The hardened heart will:
·   Fall into mischief
·   Be destroyed and
·   That without remedy

No one can possibly be happy with a hardened heart.

That leads me to finally give
III. A CURE
Hebrews 3:8 (KJV)
Harden not your hearts, as in the provocation, in the day of temptation in the wilderness:

Hebrews 3:13 (KJV)
But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.

A person would do well to study through the book of Hebrews chapters 2-3 concerning the hardened heart of the Jews and the lessons we can draw from them.

A person who is living in a constant state of unhappiness is almost certainly hardening his or her heart to some sort of instruction.

And as long as they refuse to hear instruction, they will continue to be unhappy.

For instance, in most cases, three very simple steps can cure depression:
·   Getting exercise
·   Getting social and
·   Getting generous

Physical exercise makes the body feel better, makes a person look better so they feel better about themselves and releases dopamine into the system, which provides a feeling of well being.

Getting around people meets a basic human need of companionship and belonging.

Getting generous and giving to those who are less fortunate than ourselves gets our minds off of our troubles and helps us to see that our troubles are not as bad as they might be.

Here’s the problem; depressed people don’t want to exercise, be around people or give to those who are in more need than themselves.

If a depressed person refuses to hear and observe the three simple steps I gave, they will continue to be unhappy.

The addict, whether:
·   Alcohol
·   Drugs or
·   Gambling
·   Etc.
Can’t be helped until he or she comes to decide for themselves they need help.

Until they will listen to and follow instructions, they simply continue in their misery.

All of us go through times of depression and unhappiness. These are not what I refer to here.

I am speaking about the person who lives in a constant state of unhappiness; it is almost certainly because they have hardened their hearts to instruction.

So what do you do?

A. Take personal responsibility
Hebrews 3:8 (KJV)
Harden not your hearts, as in the provocation, in the day of temptation in the wilderness:

Recognize the problem and take responsibility for your hard heart.

Limber up your neck
Soften up your heart

Take personal responsibility

And then
B. Get some help
Hebrews 3:13 (KJV)
But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.

Come to church where the Bible is preached and come to every service there is.

Get some fellowship around godly Christians, and give them liberty to be up front with you.

Develop some relationships that are mutually beneficial (from the spiritual standpoint) and

Get involved in classes like our HOPE program for some detailed instruction for more challenging life problems.

Conclusion
·   Tender
·   Sensitive
·   Spiritual
·   Teachable people

These will be the happiest of all people.

But, Proverbs 29:1 (KJV)
He, that being often reproved hardeneth his neck, shall suddenly be destroyed, and that without remedy.




[1] The one in Yakima has inspired a half a dozen or more of them around the country.
[2] The Baptism, aired October 14, 1976
[3] http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0743680/trivia?tab=qt&ref_=tt_trv_qu,  accessed 10-8-16

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